It’s happened. I’ve officially got Royal Wedding Fever. This Saturday Prince Harry is going to wed Meghan Markle in yet another fairytale made for Hallmark event. I am really excited!
I am not a huge Royal Watcher. I will confess that I was up at 2am to watch Prince Charles marry Diana Spencer. I was then up all night and into the next day to watch Princess Diana be laid to rest. I watched all of the coverage for the wedding of “Wills and Kate”. So it is only fitting that I am preparing to watch Prince Harry “tie the knot”. Especially considering he’s marrying a strong multicultural woman who’s people come from Ohio! I could go on and on about my love for Ms Meghan. Right now I’m speaking more about this fever I’ve got.
My love of ceremony and ritual is partly to blame. One of the things that I help my private clients do is create ritual or daily ceremonies to help create change in their life. A wedding is the ultimate ceremony for creating change in your life!
One of my favorite phrases for a wedding is “tying the knot”. I wondered where the phrase originated so I asked Lisa Bauer, Founder of Tartan Weddings.
Tartan Weddings is a premier destination wedding planning service that designs unique wedding experiences in historic castles of Scotland. Founded in 2018, Tartan Weddings was born out of a love for Scottish castles, traditions, and the incomparable beauty of the Scottish countryside. A native of Scotland, Founder Lisa Bauer decided to combine her event planning skills with knowledge of her home country to help guide couples to create the wedding of their dreams. Tartan Weddings strives to preserve Scottish wedding traditions such as: Quaich, handfasting, bagpipes, kilts, and many more. Tartan Weddings handles every aspect of a destination wedding from dealing with suppliers, guest lists, passports, travel, officiants, music, decor and more.
TLS: What wedding tradition was the origin of the phrase “tying the knot”?
TW: Some people believe that it came from Roman times where the bride’s girdle was tied in knots on the morning of her wedding and then the groom had to untie these knots on their wedding night to consummate their marriage. Others like myself believe it originated from the Celtic/pagan ceremony of handfasting. Handfasting was originally more like today’s engagement period, where two people would declare a binding union between themselves for a year and a day. The original handfasting was, in essence, a trial marriage. This year gave the couple the chance to see if they could survive marriage to each other. After a year the couple could either part ways or would go ahead with the real marriage ceremony.
That’s cool. You get a year to decide if you really want to be married. I believe in taking your time. That Roman girdle story sounds a bit like what some of my friends do on a Saturday night! I’ve had friends that had a handfasting ceremony at their wedding. So clearly times have changed.
TW: Today handfasting ceremonies symbolize the couples’ connection and devotion to one another while the officiant binds the couple’s hands together with ribbons combined of the two families tartans.
I love that! Symbolizing “the couples’ connection and devotion to one another”. What a lovely way to ceremonially represent what is happening within.
I can’t wait to see what will happen with Harry & Meghan. I can say I’m disappointed that Barack & Michelle won’t be there. No matter, I’ll be up and ready with bells on! I’m hosting a “Boffo Royal Wedding Brunch” and Viewing party with friends in LA to watch all of the festivities. Whatever you do this Saturday, join me to raise a glass of cheer to toast all of the celebrations and ceremonies for people creating change in their lives! Don’t forget to reach out to Lisa Bauer if you’ve decided it’s time to “tie the knot” and you want to do it in a real Scottish castle. If you do, please invite me. Those castles look amazing! TartanWeddings.com